When Michael Webb sent me a review copy of his latest book - 50 SECRETS OF BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIPS, What the top 1% of marriages have in common - I knew I'd be able to read it from a "professional" point of view. I have been married to my Bill for 47 years, and the love we have shared throughout the years has been wonder-filled, if not always blissful. And so I read with great interest, Michael's insights.
His advice is sound and filled with great common sense. He uses humor and kindness to get his points across to the reader. Above all else, his outlook on marriage is honest.
50 Secrets Of Blissful Relationships
My Bill has always said that a good relationship of any kind can be described with just one word: Respect. Michael and his wife appear to know this truth, too.
I especially enjoyed his list: You might be mistaken for newlyweds if you...
Here is my response to his list.
Often hold hands in public (always)
Display other proper affection in public: wrapping arms around each oher, casually kiss, gently stroke another's hair from time to time. (when the Spirit moved us we "adored" each other)
Refer to each other with endearing terms (He was "my Bill," always; I was often his "Joan Lois.)
Want to be near each other in social occasions, not as far apart as possible. (We have always been each other's best friend and so we enjoyed one another's company.)
Refrain from insulting one another. (Never... remember that word: Respect. Insulting, fighting "dirty" or arguing achieves nothing but sadness; talking, discussing and reaching decisions together always made more sense to us.)
Comment how beautiful, kind, smart, caring, etc. your mate is to others. (My Bill has been my hero since the first day we met, when I was only 12-years old! He has told me "thank you" for every meal I ever made him in 47 years, and there were literally 1000s, I suppose. He told anyone who'd listen what a good person I am and that I was his Angel.)
Make each other smile or laugh often. (Absolutely always. That's what best friends do, don't they?)
Once, when my Bill was hospitalized I was helping him with whatever he needed. We had no idea there was a nurse on the other side of the curtain as we talked. Smiling, she came to his bed and asked if we were newlyweds. Two, obviously past twenty-one year olds, grinned from ear to ear.
"Nope," replied my Bill. "We'll soon be married 47 years."
Well, the nurse just gasped. "I would have bet you were newlyweds. All that Love Talk and sweet names."
"Did you think this might have been a second marriage for each of us?" I asked.
She nodded. "You're a lucky pair," she said.
"Yes, we are," I agreed, as I glanced over at my beloved and he gave me one of those winks and smiles that still made me go all silly inside.
Do you wonder why I miss him so, now that he has moved on to his Next Adventure?
It takes work to make a good marriage. Two can never take their commitment for granted. Never. Michael Webb and his beloved know that, too. I recommend his book, whole-heartedly.
Please click on the book cover and buy now. Thank you.
Love is wonder-filled. I wish every couple could experience it as my Bill and I have done. It's a Forever kind of thing - our Love.
Respectfully,
"Love conquers all, right?" Well----it should.
But most|many marriages|relationships will end in break up. A lot of their circumstances are about the children, money, or friends.
When couples commit to a long relationship, there are
specific personality traits they should have in common.
1. The same physical texture (thick skinned/thin skinned)
2. The same emotional toughness
3. The same level of tolerance
4. The same intellectual/understanding of situations
5. Mostly the same Interests in common
Without these five similarities, the couple may live on different planes, in different worlds. They may be inclined to drift apart.
Couples grow by adjusting to their differences, but sometimes, the amount of the difference may be too much.
Love provides a reason for people in relationships to be willing to adjust to each others differences.
A frequent question is; "How do I know what real love is? "The answer may be that when you are enjoying something special - ex: a movie, a sunset, flower, song, and you long to have your partner to share it with you. The degree of longing will determine how much in love you are.
Growth in a relationship should come from; doing things together, allowing things to happen, accepting them as is, and changing what you can. It involves sharing and caring.
Couples usually don't mind working at their relationship as long as they have a closeness to each other. Most couples don't want divorce, they want understanding. Divorce is usually a rebellion at not being able to get through to each other. The couple are still in love, that's why it hurts so much to part.
There is a story of a couple who had been engaged for many. The young lady didn't have the courage to
commit. They had their personalities profiled and learned to adjust to each other's personalities. They understood each other as individuals and their relationship flourished.
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